Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

About a year ago, I had a relationship with a young man who seemed nice at first- but then as things went further, I found out that he was not only extremely controlling, but also very jealous and very possessive even though I didn't flirt with other nor men nor cheat on him. There were times when he would threaten to leave me when I wouldn't sleep with him. He wasn't pleased about the fact that I loved dressing up (he never had to pay for anything, I buy my own clothing and pay for my own beauty products) and always wanted me to dress very casually and not even fix my hair (I am NOT kidding!) whenever he wanted to see me. There were times when he would call me, moaning and nearly crying when the subject of me leaving him would come up. He even cheated on me. I have dated some men after that (just casually) and this man and I are already broken up, but I still feel this sense of pain, brokenness, and a much lower sense of self-esteem.

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

I think that since I read the first two lines my answer was yes!! Of course it was an abusive relationship... That happend to me a year and 1/2 ago... And you know what, I was with him no matter what he did to me... He asked me for money, he cheated on me, eventhough I never saw him, (I know) he went out but when I wanted to go out he will make a fight and made me feel guilty, he pushed me, he always wanted sex, and he liked me when I was trashie. I was with him for 2 years with an on and off relationdship. After I got pregnant he left me... It wasn't until that moment that I realised what type of person he was... to this day I feel sence of pain, brokenness and a low self-esteem!! I'm afraid, I meet people and I don't even know what they feel for me. Everytime I go to bed I think.... What tha hell I was thinking when I was with that piece of ****!

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

Yes, it sounds to me like this guy was emotionally abusive. Being controlling, jealous, and possessive are some of the key signs of an abuser. You should consider talking to a therapist to help you get over this relationship and what this guy did to your self-esteem. Ask your doctor for a referral.

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

No it wasn't abusive. A little 'sick' on his part. Sounds like he didn't want you to look your best -- a lack of self-esteem perhaps! If anything, you are abusing your ownself, by worrying about a man like him,Move on. You are better off without this man.

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

break up wit him u dont want to spend your time with a guy tht wont let u be what u want to be. there are plenty of men out there tht would treat u wit respect. and yes he is abussing u. dump him or go to couples therapy .

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

You said he's a young man that's why. I went thru that with my first gf and it bothered me about everything that she's doing involved other men even for her work or whatever. She even told me that she would go to her male friends house and drink beer together and that it's ok to do. So in essence I was too immature to handle her and looking back we had different values. So you'll get more of that if you keep on dating younger guys along with different values. So you need to find a mature with similar values so both of you will be happy when together and when away from each other. By the way, even though I've calmed down a lot and mature a lot but I still don't think it's cool for her to hang out with a male friend. Those are my values I'm talking about. So good riddence he wasn't right for you. He'll find someone similar to him and you will too. Hopefully, otherwise you'll always have problems in your relationships.

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

Sweeety,no your not losing your mind.This type of affliction is called Mental Abuse %26amp; Emotional Abuse.Just because he's not beating you about the face doesn't mean he's not brow beating you.Making you feel guilty over every little thing,

treating you like your just out to hurt him, manipulating you to do what he wants.Everything you pointed out is the exact definition of this type of abuse!YOU have every right to feel cheated,cunfused, betrayed,angry,sad,%26amp; frustrated! You have been abused %26amp; the sad thing is he probably doesn't know he's abusive,because like you ,he thinks since he's never hit you it's not abuse but it is.You might want to get some counseling or you can look up chat groups for this particular sort of abuse!I'm sorry you had to go thruogh this but your not alone %26amp; there is nothing wronge with you!!

Would this be considered an "abusive relationship"?

went through the same thing for 4 years, 14-18...im 23 now, leaving and getting them completely out of your life is the best thing for you. this person will not change with you....