My 4-year-old lost confidence?

So I dyed my 4-year old son's hair blue last night. He was ALL about it, way excited, loved the idea, etc. All of the people in my household (we live in a two-family type deal where we share a bathroom and kitchen) were way supportive and whatnot.

So anyway, his hair looks awesome and he was so excited to show it off at school - until we got there. When we got there he put his hood on his sweathshirt up and when his teachers were saying "Oh wow Jonas how cool, your hair is blue!" he got all shy and nervous and quiet. It's like he instantly lost his confidence when he entered a public place.

I should mention he's actually really popular at school, one of the smartest kids in class, gets along well with all the kids, has no issues.

Why would he just lose his confidence like that? Is it normal for kids so young to recognize peer pressure or society being judgemental?

My 4-year-old lost confidence?

this is totally normal - kids really like to fit in - we often have charity days called comic relief in the UK where the children in the school all do something daft like dye their hair for the day for a small sum to contribute for charity - when all the kids turn up with dyed hair its the ones how do not and have forgotten that act all shy and reserved - because they stand out! Its hard being a trend setter when you are 4! Think back to when you were a child - usually its much later you rebel and want to stamp your personality on the world - most kids want to belong and blend in with crowd - I'm not saying that Jonas is not a confident kid but your guess of peer pressure etc is spot on - incred strong at that age.

My 4-year-old lost confidence?

I think it maybe occurred to him how ridiculous it is to have Blue hair. Or maybe he was embarassed that someone let him do this.

My 4-year-old lost confidence?

Kids know "different" when they see it, and he knows that on an instinctive level even if he doesn't know it consciously. He clearly decided it was a big risk, and got scared. It's pure instinct, and little else. Next time, try just a lock or two of blue (or other color) hair; for now, get it out of his hair as soon as possible.