How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

that she's let herself go?

My oldest daugher (early 20s) has really let herself go after punching out 2 kids with her military hubby. She's gained alot of weight, her hair is stringy, wears little makeup, and wears unflattering clothes - sweats, jean, etc.

I get the feeling that her hubby has had enough of her not fixing herself up from time to time, and I'm worried he might start looking around - especially since he's often away.

What should I do?

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

tell her! save her marriage!! yeah, she might be upset, but it would be worth it if it opens her eyes. you might even give her a makeover as a present...................just check your local spa or beauty salon. if she sees how good she can look, and her husband reacts positively, it might do the trick.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

She knows, and certainly doesnt need to hear it from you.

She may be totally stressed by dealing with 2 "punched out " kids, and a hubby that is gone all the time.

You should offer to watch the kids for a day, and pay for her to go to a spa, or a makeover. She needds to relax and feel good about herself, not be critcized by you.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

tell her da true....tell her to hav a look in da mirror n decide to loose weight.....tell her....as soon as poss!!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Go to the gym with her. Tell her you need a workout buddy. She will feel better about herself if she is working out and getting in shape. Everything else will fall in place. When people begin to feel better about themselves they generally take better care of themselves. Best of luck.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

You need to talk to her, she may be in trouble. Unhappiness spills over into the physical appearance.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

just tell her

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Tell her nothing. Let her read this in it's exact words and have her answer it. Seriously, do it. I just read it again and it would be very powerful for her to read it.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Well I am only 26 and sometimes it seems like there are not enough hours in a day.

I would suggest take her shopping or go to the spa or something together. Then you don't have to come out and say anything but she will see. For example if you go shopping and nothing seems to fit the thought "wow I really need to lose weight" will cross her mind. If you go to the spa or out to have you hair, makeup and nails done she will feel pamperen and want to contuniue just to get away. Maybe you can even make it a mother daughter thing that you do together. I just think something like this is better than sitting her down on the couch and saying you look like crap. By going and doing things like this the time may present it's self, but she won't feel like you are attacking her.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Looks are not whats important a bout a person make sure shes still happy and satisfied with her life offer t o talk with her if she needs to when she feels better that will change

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

It depends what type of relationship you have with her and how you two talk. Since your asking the question I guess it not going to be the kind where it easy or even a good idea to tell her straight. If possible it'll probably be best coming from her mother, even better if her mother (or a mother-like figure) is a good role-model kinda thing. Maybe for ther birthday take her clothes shopping try to boost her self esteem/respect.

Other than that you could get one of these make-over tv shows in to spruce her up.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

It's never easy telling someone about their appearances. You're always afraid of hurting their feelings...

I suggest if her mother is around, that it would be best that she brings it up... If not, just start having a casual conversation and maybe start by talking about someone else who is in the same situation... Then just be honest with her and let her know what you think and feel... Let her know that you love her and coming from a mans point of view you want her to know, that if she wants to keep her husband from straying, that she needs to take care of herself, (remember, she has to do it first and foremost for herself as well as for her husband).

However, in my opinion, if her husband strays, he is not committed to her 100%. When you are married both parties have to work on the marriage and because she has let herself go a little is no reason for him to stray... For Better or worse (isn't it). Her husband can also talk to her about what he would like from her... (communication is the key) When people go into a marriage they have to realize that it is like a job and it takes two to make it work.....

Again, it won't be easy, but if she cares about herself and her marriage she will make the changes, otherwise, she will be the only one to have to open up her eyes...

Good Luck and God Bless!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

tell her the truth it will hurt but it will help her too

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Tell her, it could save her marriage. Give her a gift card to a salon, tell her that she needs to fix herself up.

Tell her it is not nice for her or her husband to let herself go. Would she want her husband letting himself go? How would she feel? Tell her to have some pride and find some fitness places that she can take her kids to. She should put herself 1st.

It can be hard but other military wives take care of themselves. I was one but I did it :)

Also tell her that she wants her hubby showing off her picture, not talking about his wife letting herself go.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Telling her that is wrong in so many ways.

- it's the same as telling her she is a complete moron. By telling her this you are suggesting that she does not know this herself.

She does.

- You're closing the door if she needs help and support. It's harder to come to you when she needs to when she feels that you are first going to gleam and gloat and say 'I told you so'.

- Telling her this will make her angry at you (even though you are right) and thus motivate her to do NOTHING about it - as doing something about it would mean she'd have to admit that you are right.

So help your daughter and shut up.

There is NO tactful way to say someone is becoming a slob!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

you should gently mention this to her. BE SUPPORTIVE ask her if the two of you can work out together, maybe help her find a babysitter or offer to babysit yourself!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

She is probably very tired with looking after the children and doesn't have much time for dressing up etc. Rather than telling her that she is 'letting herself go' you might try babysitting for her sometimes so that if she wants to she may have more time for getting dressed up, getting her hair done etc. However, if she is running round after two young children she is probably more comfortable in jeans, and will probably prefer to save the dressing-up for special occasions.

Remember also that some men still find their wives attractive even if they have put on weight and aren't always tarting themselves up. Not all men are that superficial.