If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a

He says if I want things(clothes,shoes,hair products,etc.,)for myself or our kids,I'll have to get a job.He makes enough money to provide us with these things..but if he were to actually care for us properly,he wouldn't have money left for weed,booze,etc.,...Does that mean I shouldn't hear anything about what I spend my money on when I start working?

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

He sounds like a jerk, you should take your kids and leave him.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

it means you should leave him. selffish people dont deserve families

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

If you go out to work, your money is YOURS and he can't say anything about it.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

That's the way I see it. If his money is HIS money, than yours should be YOURS. But I would not count on that. I myself would make friends with a locksmith and have the locks changed while he is at work or out boozing.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

That is exactly what it means. He is burning his money up, and you should not have to answer to him about your money. I wouldnt have it anyway. It takes a sorry man not to care for his kids, and even worse when he is able but spending his money on booze and drugs instead. I would leave and hit him up for every dime of child support you can get. But thats me.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Start charging him for your household duties and child care. If he doesn't want to pay your salary, you can get a job that will; have him put the kids in daycare and hire a maid.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

YES!!!! i had a baby with my bf 1 yr ago, and we couldnt afford daycare so i stayed home w/ the baby and he worked... well.. because he works and i " sit around the house all day" which is a load of S*** . He didnt give me any money, but he had money to go out drinking with and money for all the other crap he does. But i got a job 3 weeks ago, and now it great because he cant tell me what to do w/ my money and it's nice to not be dependant on him. I think that you should be able to do whatever w/ your money since he does whatever with his... as long as the kids are being cared for ..It is tough for the men though too when all the financial responsibilty is on them. but its not easy being the full time mom. especially when your broke.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Why would you want to stay with someone who smokes and does drugs? Nice way to grow up for your kids.=( You need to leave him.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

That means that your "Marriage" is a joke.

He's not what a husband is supposed to be and YOU need to go back to school so that you can get "smart"!!

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Nah..... Let him buy the weed, coke, heroin, meth and the rest of it and zone out.....Find another guy... this one is taken.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Well, since you did not state your near death from starvation it's obvious he's providing food. That is unless you dumpster diving at night, is that the case?

Do you live on the streets or in a place like a house or apartment? Are the utilities working? Are you and your children walking around NAKED?

Think twice before stating you should not hear a thing about how you are spending your money. Are you stating he can't spend ANY of the money he earns on things for himself? If so, then you are taking a VERY hypocritical stance on this.

I did not read anything about being a stay at home mom, having children with special needs, newborns, sickness etc. No mention of a physically or emotionally abusive spuse. I did read your husband smokes weed. Do you, did you? Do you drink, have you?

You would be amazed just how much a second income HELPS a family. Sounds like he has all the basic needs already covered (since you did not state any of my points were true). The additional income you would bring the family would really help get all those things you desire.

Amazing someone not bringing in an income is complaining about having food to eat, clothes to wear and a place to live. Try being a homeless person for a week or two. You would quickly understand the things you NEED to live far out weigh those you want. A close re-examination of what you just stated might bring you to the realization you are in much better shape than many people on this planet.

I suggest you do find employment and. You will quickly understand the benefits. Sounds like a spoiled brat wining about not getting EVERTHING she thinks she should.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

I'm in this same boat. It's not about the money, it's about you not doing your part. Grow a spine get a job, and spend "your" money helping the family.