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Thursday, October 8, 2009

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a

He says if I want things(clothes,shoes,hair products,etc.,)for myself or our kids,I'll have to get a job.He makes enough money to provide us with these things..but if he were to actually care for us properly,he wouldn't have money left for weed,booze,etc.,...Does that mean I shouldn't hear anything about what I spend my money on when I start working?

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

He sounds like a jerk, you should take your kids and leave him.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

it means you should leave him. selffish people dont deserve families

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

If you go out to work, your money is YOURS and he can't say anything about it.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

That's the way I see it. If his money is HIS money, than yours should be YOURS. But I would not count on that. I myself would make friends with a locksmith and have the locks changed while he is at work or out boozing.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

That is exactly what it means. He is burning his money up, and you should not have to answer to him about your money. I wouldnt have it anyway. It takes a sorry man not to care for his kids, and even worse when he is able but spending his money on booze and drugs instead. I would leave and hit him up for every dime of child support you can get. But thats me.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Start charging him for your household duties and child care. If he doesn't want to pay your salary, you can get a job that will; have him put the kids in daycare and hire a maid.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

YES!!!! i had a baby with my bf 1 yr ago, and we couldnt afford daycare so i stayed home w/ the baby and he worked... well.. because he works and i " sit around the house all day" which is a load of S*** . He didnt give me any money, but he had money to go out drinking with and money for all the other crap he does. But i got a job 3 weeks ago, and now it great because he cant tell me what to do w/ my money and it's nice to not be dependant on him. I think that you should be able to do whatever w/ your money since he does whatever with his... as long as the kids are being cared for ..It is tough for the men though too when all the financial responsibilty is on them. but its not easy being the full time mom. especially when your broke.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Why would you want to stay with someone who smokes and does drugs? Nice way to grow up for your kids.=( You need to leave him.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

That means that your "Marriage" is a joke.

He's not what a husband is supposed to be and YOU need to go back to school so that you can get "smart"!!

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Nah..... Let him buy the weed, coke, heroin, meth and the rest of it and zone out.....Find another guy... this one is taken.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

Well, since you did not state your near death from starvation it's obvious he's providing food. That is unless you dumpster diving at night, is that the case?

Do you live on the streets or in a place like a house or apartment? Are the utilities working? Are you and your children walking around NAKED?

Think twice before stating you should not hear a thing about how you are spending your money. Are you stating he can't spend ANY of the money he earns on things for himself? If so, then you are taking a VERY hypocritical stance on this.

I did not read anything about being a stay at home mom, having children with special needs, newborns, sickness etc. No mention of a physically or emotionally abusive spuse. I did read your husband smokes weed. Do you, did you? Do you drink, have you?

You would be amazed just how much a second income HELPS a family. Sounds like he has all the basic needs already covered (since you did not state any of my points were true). The additional income you would bring the family would really help get all those things you desire.

Amazing someone not bringing in an income is complaining about having food to eat, clothes to wear and a place to live. Try being a homeless person for a week or two. You would quickly understand the things you NEED to live far out weigh those you want. A close re-examination of what you just stated might bring you to the realization you are in much better shape than many people on this planet.

I suggest you do find employment and. You will quickly understand the benefits. Sounds like a spoiled brat wining about not getting EVERTHING she thinks she should.

If my husband say that in order to have anything for myself or our children I'll have to get a job....?

I'm in this same boat. It's not about the money, it's about you not doing your part. Grow a spine get a job, and spend "your" money helping the family.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

that she's let herself go?

My oldest daugher (early 20s) has really let herself go after punching out 2 kids with her military hubby. She's gained alot of weight, her hair is stringy, wears little makeup, and wears unflattering clothes - sweats, jean, etc.

I get the feeling that her hubby has had enough of her not fixing herself up from time to time, and I'm worried he might start looking around - especially since he's often away.

What should I do?

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

tell her! save her marriage!! yeah, she might be upset, but it would be worth it if it opens her eyes. you might even give her a makeover as a present...................just check your local spa or beauty salon. if she sees how good she can look, and her husband reacts positively, it might do the trick.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

She knows, and certainly doesnt need to hear it from you.

She may be totally stressed by dealing with 2 "punched out " kids, and a hubby that is gone all the time.

You should offer to watch the kids for a day, and pay for her to go to a spa, or a makeover. She needds to relax and feel good about herself, not be critcized by you.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

tell her da true....tell her to hav a look in da mirror n decide to loose weight.....tell her....as soon as poss!!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Go to the gym with her. Tell her you need a workout buddy. She will feel better about herself if she is working out and getting in shape. Everything else will fall in place. When people begin to feel better about themselves they generally take better care of themselves. Best of luck.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

You need to talk to her, she may be in trouble. Unhappiness spills over into the physical appearance.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

just tell her

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Tell her nothing. Let her read this in it's exact words and have her answer it. Seriously, do it. I just read it again and it would be very powerful for her to read it.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Well I am only 26 and sometimes it seems like there are not enough hours in a day.

I would suggest take her shopping or go to the spa or something together. Then you don't have to come out and say anything but she will see. For example if you go shopping and nothing seems to fit the thought "wow I really need to lose weight" will cross her mind. If you go to the spa or out to have you hair, makeup and nails done she will feel pamperen and want to contuniue just to get away. Maybe you can even make it a mother daughter thing that you do together. I just think something like this is better than sitting her down on the couch and saying you look like crap. By going and doing things like this the time may present it's self, but she won't feel like you are attacking her.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Looks are not whats important a bout a person make sure shes still happy and satisfied with her life offer t o talk with her if she needs to when she feels better that will change

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

It depends what type of relationship you have with her and how you two talk. Since your asking the question I guess it not going to be the kind where it easy or even a good idea to tell her straight. If possible it'll probably be best coming from her mother, even better if her mother (or a mother-like figure) is a good role-model kinda thing. Maybe for ther birthday take her clothes shopping try to boost her self esteem/respect.

Other than that you could get one of these make-over tv shows in to spruce her up.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

It's never easy telling someone about their appearances. You're always afraid of hurting their feelings...

I suggest if her mother is around, that it would be best that she brings it up... If not, just start having a casual conversation and maybe start by talking about someone else who is in the same situation... Then just be honest with her and let her know what you think and feel... Let her know that you love her and coming from a mans point of view you want her to know, that if she wants to keep her husband from straying, that she needs to take care of herself, (remember, she has to do it first and foremost for herself as well as for her husband).

However, in my opinion, if her husband strays, he is not committed to her 100%. When you are married both parties have to work on the marriage and because she has let herself go a little is no reason for him to stray... For Better or worse (isn't it). Her husband can also talk to her about what he would like from her... (communication is the key) When people go into a marriage they have to realize that it is like a job and it takes two to make it work.....

Again, it won't be easy, but if she cares about herself and her marriage she will make the changes, otherwise, she will be the only one to have to open up her eyes...

Good Luck and God Bless!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

tell her the truth it will hurt but it will help her too

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Tell her, it could save her marriage. Give her a gift card to a salon, tell her that she needs to fix herself up.

Tell her it is not nice for her or her husband to let herself go. Would she want her husband letting himself go? How would she feel? Tell her to have some pride and find some fitness places that she can take her kids to. She should put herself 1st.

It can be hard but other military wives take care of themselves. I was one but I did it :)

Also tell her that she wants her hubby showing off her picture, not talking about his wife letting herself go.

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

Telling her that is wrong in so many ways.

- it's the same as telling her she is a complete moron. By telling her this you are suggesting that she does not know this herself.

She does.

- You're closing the door if she needs help and support. It's harder to come to you when she needs to when she feels that you are first going to gleam and gloat and say 'I told you so'.

- Telling her this will make her angry at you (even though you are right) and thus motivate her to do NOTHING about it - as doing something about it would mean she'd have to admit that you are right.

So help your daughter and shut up.

There is NO tactful way to say someone is becoming a slob!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

you should gently mention this to her. BE SUPPORTIVE ask her if the two of you can work out together, maybe help her find a babysitter or offer to babysit yourself!

How do tactfully tell my adult daugher...?

She is probably very tired with looking after the children and doesn't have much time for dressing up etc. Rather than telling her that she is 'letting herself go' you might try babysitting for her sometimes so that if she wants to she may have more time for getting dressed up, getting her hair done etc. However, if she is running round after two young children she is probably more comfortable in jeans, and will probably prefer to save the dressing-up for special occasions.

Remember also that some men still find their wives attractive even if they have put on weight and aren't always tarting themselves up. Not all men are that superficial.

Kids in high school?

isn't it funy how when we're in high school, we always think how "cool" we are or how "in" we are? I was just flipping through my high school year book (class of 1990) what a bunch of geeks and dweebs! lol big hair and mullets were popular when i was in high school. what about everyone else, also list the year you graduated?

Kids in high school?

I graduated in 1988. What's funny to me is how I was so concerned with boys and friends and now I don't keep in contact with any of them. I really could care less about any of them either.

Kids in high school?

1998 we where a bunch of degenerates

Kids in high school?

yer i had a curly look and bracaes

Kids in high school?

Graduated 2006. Things changed but the essence of being cool hasn't. Good times but doing certain things to be cool wasn't necessary as I reflect on those high school years.

Kids in high school?

What's amazing is that you look

at some of the girls that people picked

on and many were actually better looking

than the "in" girls.

High school in reality is about the most uncool

you ever are. Well, until your 70 or 80, I suppose.

Kids in high school?

1960. No mullets, but certainly our share of everything else. I can see everyone maturing and learning and growing during our years in high school, but nothing compared to when we finally got out on our own, let alone looking back 40 years! My biggest complaint is that the teachers and other adults in our lives never prepared us for reality.

Kids in high school?

graduated 2001 NH

things in highschool that were "cool"

dreadlocks

goth gear

gigapets

pants with pictures on them

man my school sucked............

Kids in high school?

I don't care about being cool.

I just am. (:

No, really; I think that people at my school are genuinely less concerned about being fashionable or in than people at most other high schools are. We do have some vague clicks-- the athletic kids and the theater kids tend not to hang out, since due to rehearsal/practice you can't both be in a play and be on a team-- but mostly it's pretty fluid. I hang out with several different "groups" of people. Some of them're into counterculture stuff; some of them like video games, comics or Dungeons and Dragons; some of them like art, music or theater; some of them like intellectual discussions; all are tolerant. We all get along.

Kids in high school?

I was never a part of the cool crowd in high school mainly because all I did was concentrate on studies and help my family. I didn't have any regrets because I learned the values of money and hard work at a young age.

Kids in high school?

yeh those were the good old days

Kids in high school?

I graduated in 2001 and thought I was such a loner. But then you go to the grocery store, or register for sites like the facebook, you realize that people actually knew who you were in high school! I think the older we get, the more we learn that there are things more important that scheming $50 from your parents, or necking you boyfriend in the locker room during PE

Kids in high school?

1982, and those icky styles are popping up again all over the place!! the leggings with the short dress/long t-shirt (whichever way you look at it), the flat shoes...bad dreams!!

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

i dont mean because a hard day at work or because of a bad hair day...

I've got 2 kids and a husband working his balls off money. were doing ok at the mo but have had a massive arguement with some reletives that live close by and is hard to dela as they are childish- ive got the strain of coping with depression after having my second child and all this on top of it all plus with my hubby working early till late, its all just getting to me.

I feel like just packing up and moving away, i mean move half way round the uk or something or a holiday or soemthing as cant cope with all this strain and am finding it exhausting me and feel really down.

What do you think i should do? i dont mean councelling or talking to the gp but should i move and start a new life with my family to get away from all the agro on our doorstep, as moveing is no probs with us if means will have better life. Or do you think its just a holiday i need?

anything to get away fom here........

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

Hell yeah, family is a big pain in the rear, no matter how much we love them.

I just took a month long vacation with my hubby and ended up having the family (both his and mine) bug us while we were away and having major drama when we got back. So a vacation might not do it.

Look into areas that you are interested in, especially if there is someplace that your husband can transfer from work. Check out the schools ratings in the areas, the crime rates, etc. And then do it. It doesn't have to be that far. Just as like was stated above, far enough that you have your privacy and no family will just drop by, but have to call first cuz your that far. But then again, I myself prefer staying close enough by that if an emergency happened, I could be there with in a few hours drive at least.

I live in California (near los angeles) and I am planning on moving to Las Vegas later this year. Its a five hour drive. But it's to finish my degree in law, but I might stay, but then again I might get a little homesick and eventually move back a little closer once I'm all done with school. But I swear, I will never live closer than an hour's drive from my family. I need to live my own life, without them sticking their nose's all in it everyday.

I believe I will love them more without having to deal with them ALL THE TIME.

Good luck!

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

yeah, i want to move back to the moon, but i'd lost my rider.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

Pack your sniffer full of nose candy and get into the fun zone. -lilbush

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

If you're not sure, maybe start with a holiday and then see if your life is better or if you need to stay away so then you can move and make it permanent.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

YES !! constantly wish to move away and start over, but then realize if the same problems didn't follow me (us), there'd just be a whole set of new ones more than likely. It is tough.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

I think you need to stop having children. Because you see dear they are the ones suffering more here than you think you are.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

take a deep breath. you need a break. i get like taht sometimes and i have 4 kids. your just stresssed out. if you pack up and move away tat is selfish. you got kids to think about. our family we keep to ourselves to avoid conflicts and getting involved in crap like that. our family is allspread out so we dont see them everyday. yall should go on a trip or something somewhere where yall dont have to think of anything. or you just need to just get out og the house and go to a new scenery in my opinion.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

I like to classify my depression into 2 categories, circumstantial and chemical....you have both.

The fact that you have a new baby and feel depressed is chemical. Go see your Dr. you can receive treatment for this depression.

The fighting with the family and your husbands hours cause circumstantial depression. If you move will your husband work less? Do you have to associate with the people you are fighting with in the future? If your husbands hours do not change and there is still strain with the family...moving won't change it.

Get treatment for your baby blues and take a holiday. When you return you will feel refreshed and you will be able to look at the situation with a clearer head. Then you can make the decision to move if necessary...Good Luck

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

My ex is a workaholic. I had 2 babies - 19 months apart - he wouldn't come home til midnight. We bought a house that we completely renovated, he would work from 7am at his job, get off around 6, work on the new house. We lived with his family - they were all about "family" and how selfish I was because I wanted out. I did not get married to be a single mom. He always had an excuse "we live too far away from the city - I hate the commute" "we bought this new house" "you spend too much money" it was crap!! Counseling - he showed up late to the first appointment - half an hour late. Everyone kept telling me "He loves you, he is not cheating, he is not abusive - what's your problem?" - my problem is that I wanted a family, not just two kids by myself.

We split up, it was just too much for me. I do not regret my decision. He makes time for his kids - he is a great father to the, He is there for them financially. I have a wonderful fiance that I love who adores me and my children. I can't tell you what to do. I just know that that crap gets to you. I feel I made the right decision - but reading this reminds me how trapped and angry and depressed I felt.

I can't tell you what to do - but for sure get away for a minute. Take some time for you. See if you can stay with your mom or another family member for a few days. Good luck to you, I feel for you.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

Consider want it is you want to accomplish then

do some research . 8 yrs ago I moved

from ohio to texas. Was it perfect? No.

Did it help me reach some of my goals? Yes.

For instances I wanted better opportunity for

myself wife and children. I got it. I wanted a nice

home . Got it. I wanted to live in an exciting area.

got that. However everything has a price.

I do miss some friends and I`ve taken some bumps and bruises for sure. For us it was the right

move.

Tell your Husband we got plenty of work in Texas

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

Not only have I felt like doing it, I have done it. It was the best thing I ever did!

Also when I was choosing my house after my hubby and I got married, we sat down with a map and put all of our relatives houses on the map as well as our workplace, calculated how long of a drive it was for them to get to our home to visit and how much time we were willing to drive to work and looked outside the circle of distance for them to just drop in.

What that achieved, was they have to phone and request to visit and it's up to us if we want their company or not now. No one just drops in, it's too far for them to drive.

I could never live so close to a relative that they can just pop over, I need my privacy as does my hubby.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

If you move, you'll be damaging your kids for life. If you leave them behind, they'll always wonder why their mom didn't love them enough to stay, no matter what you tell them. If you take them with you, they'll always have a daddy-sized hole in their hearts, no matter what you tell them.

Take a serious look at your relationship. You vowed to be with this man until you die. You made a sacred oath. That's nothing to be taken lightly. Yeah, we all feel like we want to chuck it all and look for something better, but I promise you, your happiness lies inside you, not in any given destination. Attitude is everything.

If you need a holiday, take it. But use that time to adjust your own thinking and attitude about your life, your relationship with your husband and your relationships with your kids. Your kids crave a loving, stable home with a loving stable mom.

Can you give that to them?

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

Yes, I've felt that way before. It was a time with my son's were little toddlers, I had a husband, working full-time and going to school part-time. Along with other drama that tag along because that's how life is. We can't live without having some type of issues. It's our job to deal with our problems the best way we know how and we must remember that whatever decision we make it's going a affect others around us.

It is my advice for you not to run, but to search within and figure out how you can make the situation better for yourself and your family. Running never solves anything. Face the problem head on and think of ways of improving who you are.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

me... i moved to another place for my college study...

and right now, i feel like going back to my province... cause i miss the people there... i miss their comfort and the less stress...

the city is just full of pollution and dangerous people... plus my studies is stressing me already....

seeing pictures back home makes me just want to leave this place, but hey, i have to finish my study.... but dang, i really badly want to go spend time there.

my advice for you is PATIENCE... every action has its consequence so think thoroughly of what will be the effects if you run away... i advice you not to. Just take a holiday.

as what I've learned, every place has its "up side". Find something to fill your need or to fill that gap in your feeling/

Let me also narrate a similar problem. Our family also has neighbors (which are our relatives). They badmouthed us from the very start and the argument even went up to the government yadda-yadda blah-blah, they never stopped even. You get the picture.

But we did not run away. Cause if we do we'll look defeated. i know its a matter of pride but no, it is also a matter of ignoring and living our life without them--ignoring them to say the least...

everything will work out fine, just look at the better side. and spend time with people who are on to the brighter side as well... your place has wonderful things there, i bet, so go and search for it

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

You can run away from your family, but you can't run away from yourself.

Has anyone just felt like just packing up and moving away?

Running away won't help anyone's problems. If there is any sort of problem that's unfixed and untended to they have a way of finding you again. You should be focusing on enjoying those little ones you have

Okay so i want to keep in touch with my family when i get older but i need some help with name.....?

okay so im doing this with my dads side i have 8 aunts and uncles including my dad and all except 2 have kids i have 21 cousins including my sibiling and me so if my cousin has a kid what do i call it my cousin or something else and and were can you make family trees cause its so hard i mean 21 grand children have there kids then they have theres it is so hard also its in hair because mines for some reason goes auttomatically in hair

Okay so i want to keep in touch with my family when i get older but i need some help with name.....?

ACTUALLY WHATS THE QUESTION ???

Okay so i want to keep in touch with my family when i get older but i need some help with name.....?

if your cousin has a kid its your second cousin...

Why are ppl on here so ignorant about race?

everytime i get on here i always see questions about "y do white girls date black guys" "y are black pplz hair so nappy" "y have interracial kids and make white ppl a minority" WTF is wrong with these ppl???

Why are ppl on here so ignorant about race?

i have no idea. i know that im no where near racist. i have a black boyfriend. and im white. i believe we are all human and the skin is just color.

but its just how people are going to be. sometimes people arent going to be open-minded and non-ignorant about things.

but just be glad that me and you arent one of them. haha.

Why are ppl on here so ignorant about race?

People are getting more stupid as each day passes.

Why are ppl on here so ignorant about race?

because lots of people are ignorant in general. i don't know what's wrong w/ them, i think its stupid.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Easy dog question game ???

lol sorry last time i made it to hard for you guys so i will make it a bit easyer

i am very high strong with short short hair ....

i am also used in kids movie ... i have great endurence i only bassically come in one color . i am born all white but dont stay that way !

number 2 :

my country of origen is great britain. i can weigh 30 -45 lbs

/ i am a very great herding dog ! i need daily brushes i have long fur if not cut .. i may try to hurd other animals .....

breed number 3:

my country of origen is canada . i can weigh 110 - 150 lbs .

gentle companion for children.. Daily brushing. Sheds profusely twice a year. my colors are Black, brown, or Landseer (white with black markings.

breed number 4 :

i origenate in switzerland .i am tricolor. Life Expectancy 10-12 yrs . Typically very good with older children. i weighh about 87 - 90 lbs .... i have long fur and dont do well in the heat.

these shouldent be to hard /